Ten Questions to Ask Your Wife
“Live with your wife in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.”
1 Peter 3:7
Our men’s ministry has been talking about stepping up and having the courage to do the right thing. Recently we talked about having the courage to protect your wife and your family. This is not simply physical safety, there is also security found in a husband who understands and loves his wife the way God calls us to.
The following ten questions to ask your wife came from the book Stepping Up by Dennis Rainey. You might want to ask just one or two at a time. And then actually LISTEN! Don’t tell your spouse how you show her love or say “what about that time…”. Just listen. And then pray for God to help you follow through.
The author recommends you keeping asking these questions on a yearly basis. Do you have the courage to do that?
- What could I do to make you feel more loved?
- What could I do to make you feel more respected?
- What could I do to make you feel more understood?
- What could I do to make you feel more secure?
- What could I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?
- What attribute would you like me to develop?
- What attribute would you like me to help you to develop?
- What achievement in my life would bring you the greatest joy?
- What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christ-like?
- What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?
– From Stepping Up by Dennis Rainey