Thoughts for Parents of Teenagers #93 – Choose Your Words Carefully

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)

When I read this verse I know that I have been guilty of reckless words many times. As arguments escalate and volumes rise, it is so easy for thoughtless words to come out of our mouths. I find that it is even easier at home, because I wrongly believe I am some how justified to be right or to win the discussion.

These reckless words are not only poisonto our communication, but they are extremely harmful to our relationships with our loved ones: especially our teenagers. Recall some of the past posts about their emotional state and lack of maturity. We can expect them to be more volatile in communication. As parents, we have no excuse. We can’t afford to sink to fighting fire with fire. Taking time to carefully choose your words will pay off in great dividends that will continue to pay out for years through a relationship that grows stronger instead of more strained. The second phrase of this verse is just as important. Our words have the power to bring healing. Believe or not, your teenager cares more about what you think and say than anyone else in his life. When our words are spoken to instruct, correct, encourage, guide, and love they can heal wounds and build up our children. Remember the unconditional love of your heavenly Father: His mercy, grace, and forgiveness. Don’t worry so much about winning or being right all the time. Worry about choosing the right words to communicate your heart and the truths of the Gospel.
in HIS service,

Pastor Mark

P.S. The blog titles and main ideas come from Walt Mueller’s book “99 Thoughts for Parents of Teenagers”. I personalize and modify the message, and also add Scripture.

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